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Yep, They Know What They’re Doing

Mischevious baby face

“Go downstairs” “Get out” “Go back to your office”. All choice phrases from my 3-year-old. First he was kicking me out of his bedroom. Then, out of the restroom – he wanted to do his business himself. And he attempted to banish me back to my office as I peered downstairs to see him jumping on the couch. After I corrected his language (Yeah, um, cute or not, you don’t speak to momma that way. 😉 ), I took note that he knew EXACTLY what he was doing. This kid knew enough to find a place to “hide”, do something he wasn’t supposed to do, then try to get me to stop looking while he was doing it! Lol. I don’t know if they come out of the womb like that or what, but little people definitely know what they’re up to!

Through Fresh Eyes

October - MLK blog

I took my boys to the Martin Luther King Jr Center last week. My oldest has been before, but it’s been years. I’ve been many times. I’ve learned the facts of those who struggled for civil rights, seen the pictures, and internalized the anger at their pain, as well as pride in their victories. But because I’d seen it before, I didn’t expect it to be such an emotional experience. It became that way by seeing it … through fresh eyes.

My boys couldn’t understand why black people had to eat and drink separately, use separate restroom facilities, and deal with the separate and extremely unequal school experiences. Being an education lover, my oldest son took particular note of this. He was appalled at the extreme intimidation used to keep black children out of certain schools; saddened at the thought of people needlessly brutalized; upset at the second class citizen treatment … and ultimately proud … of the non-violent fight, the legacy and the life of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Champion Kids Nuggets – He’s Growing Up

One of the arguments I hear against homeschooling is that the children won’t receive enough socialization. I bought into it. And even though I’ve researched and know the realities of social opportunities for homeschoolers, I was still very concerned. After all, we were leaving the confines of a world where my son was surrounded with friends and playmates, to just me, him, and baby brother, on some days. So I wasn’t sure how he’d adjust. I wondered if he’d become more withdrawn and an introvert.

We attended an event for a homeschool group we’re going to be a part of. Unlike my usual self, I felt very impressed to remain in the background, and not try to get him to talk to others or “forge” friendships for him. And I’m so glad I didn’t. He did it all by himself!

I was so proud. He immediately interacted with others with no problems, even suggesting games to play. He didn’t get bent out of shape when others didn’t want to do what he did. I saw so much of the fragility that I thought existed in him melt away. He tried all sorts of new things, including a zip line! That was a big wow for me. He didn’t have to stay with one group of kids to feel like he was having fun or taking part. My heart swelled with joy, as I saw him emerging from a shell I never realized existed the way it did … one I’d actually helped create. By allowing him to escape from my bubble, I’m enabling him to come into his own….

My baby … is growing up.

Four Weeks Inside Our Four Walls ….

September Blog - Homeschool 2

At four weeks into homeschooling my son, I’m an expert. LOLOL. Even I couldn’t say that one with a straight face. Truly, even once I have more time under my belt and more experience, I don’t know if I’ll be able to consider myself an “expert”. There is just SO much information out there, it’s incredible. However, what I can share are the few things I’ve learned in this short time:

1. Relax This goes for both me (teacher) and my son. Initially, it’s so exciting to have a blank canvas to paint with curriculum, interests and experiments … all catered just for you. But with great freedom, comes great responsibility. I mean that to say, we can’t do everything. I had three languages on tap as well as typing, guitar and a few other extras. Not that we can’t still do all of those, and maybe even at the same time. But we’re just starting out. So not now. For now, relax.

2. We can actually use the flexibility we’re given. Okay, so the first day we were out at the library a little later than planned, I panicked. Not major, full-on, stressed panic, but a substantially scaled down version. However, the stress was still there. And many experienced homeschool moms may laugh, but I got home and realized, we can just push everything back a half an hour, and finish something tomorrow. And that will be okay. And then I got even more brazen and realized, it’s gorgeous outside and not as hot in the morning, so we can go to the park and then come home and do school. And that’s okay. Baby steps for me. Flexibility is definitely a good thing.

3. You really can learn doing housework. I joked about this previously, if not somewhat skeptically. But as we cleaned up on Friday preparing for houseguests, my son had a certain number of bins in his playroom where toys needed to fit. He needed to find out how many of each item could go in each bin. Math! We also got into a discussion about something we’d studied earlier in the week from Science, which bled into history and ended at Geography, with an online search. We were studying! And cleaning! And learning. Cool.

I’ve still got my subjects covered and am still continuing in my very methodical, organized way. I’m just learning where I can loosen the reigns, go with the flow, and enjoy the journey. Now check back with me in a few weeks and see if I’m still flowing. 😉

Angry Birds Syndrome

I’m that mom. The one that was at the school all the time, volunteering, taking part, active. I monitor what they watch, who they spend time with, their computer usage, etc. They brush their teeth twice a day, floss every night and eat veggies (or some semblance thereof – something green) every day. I’m by no means perfect, but I’m a pretty involved momma. Sometimes overboard, but I’m entitled. Well, one of those “overboard” times caught up with me … with Angry Birds.

I heard the name of the game, saw the t-shirts and advertisements, and immediately decided it belonged in the bad influence/my kids won’t be watching that crowd. I knew nothing about the game, mind you. It just thought it sounded, well, angry. So you can imagine my surprise when I saw a dear friend, whose parenting approach I trust completely, letting her kids play the game. Once I got over my initial shock, I was intrigued. If she trusted it to let her kids play it, maybe I’d let my boys give it a whirl. So I did my due diligence. I checked out the game. Played a couple of rounds. Had to have it pried from my hands. My research paid off, and I decided it wasn’t as bad as I thought. Lol.

And that was several days … and scores of games … ago. Goes to show you can’t always judge a book … or a game … by its cover.

Now where is my Angry Birds game?

Can We Please Not Talk About This Now?

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A 7-year old boy wanting a girlfriend?

Thankfully, mine does not. He told me this in no uncertain terms. He was reading a book about a bear having a girlfriend, so I started asking him how he felt about having a girlfriend.

“I’m too young,” he said. “Besides, I would have to spend all my time with a girlfriend – no time for my family or my friends. No thanks.” Accurate assessment, lol.

Happy to be making some headway, I asked what he thought was the appropriate age for a girlfriend.

“Older, I guess.” He then fidgeted and said, “Can we please not talk about this now?”

Huh? Okay, I countered, albeit reluctantly.

Not sure how to feel about his abrupt end to the discussion. I don’t want him to feel awkward talking to me, so I tried to choose my questions carefully.

I went through the litany of questions in my head – did I say too much? Did I ask too much? Did I say it in a teasing way? Did I make him feel uncomfortable?

But you know what? He’s 7. Maybe it’s just not time to talk about it anymore right now. And that’s okay. :)

For the Kids . . .

July - Final Blog pix - For the Kids

Things I have had to sacrifice for my children ….

Nights of undisturbed sleep,
Food in fancy restaurants, to eat.
Precious time to spend alone,
Upgrades to the latest phones.
New clothes, gorgeous shoes,
Exotic travels with incredible views.
A quiet home, a peaceful table,
Watching whatever I want on cable.
Climbing the career ladder,
Being selfish in decisions that matter.
I’ve had to sacrifice all of this and more for my children…

And I’d do it ALL again.