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The Reason for the Season

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I could feel it start to happen with the arrival of November. My neck stiffening, my mind racing, my pulse quickening. All from thinking about preparing for Christmas. Or more accurately, Christmas shopping. Did I have my budget ready? Did the kids give me their lists? Who do I need to buy presents for? When should the Christmas cards go out? And on and on and on… Stress! Pressure! And not at all what the Christmas season is meant to be about. While there is nothing wrong with those things in and of themselves, when pushed to the forefront, they remove the focus from the true reason for Christmas – Jesus Christ! This year, instead of getting caught up in the hustle and bustle, and sucked into the commercial hype of the season, I am determined to stay worshipful, grateful and focused on Christ. –

See more at: Gospel Today Reason For The Season

Live and On Fire Part II

Mrs Always Right

On Monday I talked about some fun things you can do to really enjoy each other as a married couple, when the kids aren’t around. Well, most of us don’t have built in sitter services anytime we want them (though my incredible sisters-in-law are the next best thing). So what can we do to keep the fires burning when we have our little people in tow?

– Put on their favorite movie, go sit in another room, cuddle and talk.
– Put them to bed, surprise your honey with their favorite snack, and put on a movie
– Hide in the bedroom and have a full conversation (not my best idea, but sometimes you just have to)
– Begin each day greeting each other with a hug or kiss
– Did I mention sleep? Sometimes we have to do this in shifts. Technically, it doesn’t count since we’re not doing it together. But we’ll be better for each other after a good nap.

Live and On Fire

Mr and Mrs

We walked hand in hand. We laughed. We talked. And most importantly, we slept. Yes, that describes the sometimes romantic but mostly relieving Valentine’s weekend we, as parents of young boys, enjoyed. In years past I’ve hyped up Valentine’s, expecting flowers and a night of fairytale romance. And then there were two. Two young boys, that is. And my dreamy and sometimes unattainable thoughts of grandeur dissolved into a reality consisting of a messy house, a tired body and a busy husband. But I’ve figured out a way to still keep that fire burning (most of the time). Here’s a look at how to do it when you can drop the little ones off with relatives. Thursday I’ll look at how you can do it with the kids around (gotta be creative, but it can be done).

– Go visit the place where your hubby proposed. Grab each of your favorite snack, sit and reminisce.
– Fire up the Nintendo or Xbox, and play the games that the kids hog all week. It’s so much fun!
– Go see that movie you’ve been dying to see.
– Have a wonderful dinner, complete with uninterrupted conversation. So that’s what it feels like to finish a thought?
– Wait. Listen. What do you hear? Nothing. Enjoy that sound.
– And me and my hubby’s favorite? Sleep. 😉

Working It Out

I feel like a lot of my posts are about decisions. It seems like life is decision, after decision, after decision! Some are small – what to eat for breakfast, what to wear today, makeup or no makeup. Then there are slightly more weighty decisions … what school curriculum to use, what activities to involve the kids in, do I schedule that meeting this week or next. Important decisions, yes, life or death, no. My problem is, I make some of the important decisions, out to be life or death. Do you ever catch yourself doing that? I hate it because I get stressed out about something that will work out just fine in the end. I’m not diminishing the value of moving in God’s timing or doing things when they need to be done. But sometimes, it just ain’t that serious. Let this encourage those of you who can be a bit like me. Breathe, relax, take a step back. It will all work out.

Say Cheese ….

Missing two front teeth

My son sang “All I want for Christmas is my two front teeth,” from October through Christmas. As anxious as he was to lose his teeth, he was equally anxious that new ones weren’t coming back in. It was taking too long, he lamented. Had he pulled them out too hard for anything to come back, he wondered. Was something wrong with the adult teeth, he asked. And on and on he persisted. He’d finally gotten what he wanted, and instead of being happy and satisfied, he immediately starting worrying about what should happen next.

My son’s only 8 years old, but already he’s exhibiting this unattractive adult trait. Aren’t we often like that? We pray for and work towards something, and then it finally happens. Instead of being happy, or grateful, or just resting in our victory, we start worrying. What’s next? What else do I have to do? How will the following steps take place? And so on and so forth.

Well, just as I saw this behavior in my son, I learned an important lesson from him. We discussed the situation, and he decided to just be thankful for what he was expecting – a new tooth to come in. He decided not to worry and wonder, and instead enjoy the present moment. And guess what … that new tooth started peeking through.

He’s now glad he took those moments to relish his two front teeth missing. And he’s excited to show off his burgeoning smile.

Say cheese ….

Too Busy. Too Crazy. Too Much.

November busy blog updated

Don’t tell me it’s never happened to you before. Okay, maybe it wasn’t the cell phone. But you were looking all over for the glasses on top of your head. Or you searched the house from top to bottom for your car keys (oh, the irony, as you will see). Or how about tearing the car apart for the coins for the toll that you “just had in your hand”?!

And then there’s plans. Double booking appointments. Forgetting meetings not written on the calendar. Or one of my new personal favorites, planning an entire child’s birthday party … at the wrong location. Because you’re too busy, things are too crazy and you are doing entirely too much.

Yep, you read it right. A real life situation. The names have been omitted to protect the overwhelmed (no worries, she encouraged me to use her story for my blog lol). A friend of mine called frantic, a few hours before her daughter’s birthday party. She’d done her due diligence – sent out invitations timely, coordinated decorations, planned fun and exciting games, and assured every detail was set. She just forgot one small thing … to double check the location. The invites she sent were to a rock climbing facility all right … just not the one where she paid for the party. So here we were, hours before the big event, calling, texting, even frantically Facebooking (is that a real word?) people to get them to the right address at the appointed time. We can laugh about it now. But last weekend, before it started, I assure you she was not laughing.

Nor was I, when at the end of the party, I couldn’t find my keys. In my rush to make calls, get there early to help set up, and be ever so helpful, I’d put my keys down somewhere. And when everyone left, they were no where to be found. I was stuck waiting for hubby and his spare set to come to the rescue. Too busy. Too crazy.

Stop. Relax. Cut yourself some slack. Breathe. Nine times out of ten, whatever you are stressing over, is not as unto death. It ain’t that serious. Take a moment. Refocus. So you won’t be stuck looking crazy like we were … trying to do too much. 😉

The Homeschool Hump

Yup, it’s happened. I was told by teachers it was coming. The long months without a break start making you a little tired … and a little crazy. I don’t think I can hold out until Thanksgiving… it’s time for a break right now. I’ve decided to act accordingly in the following ways …

1. Self-imposed teachers workday. I’ll be working from my bed, pressing snooze, thank you very much.
2. A day of student responsibility. Show me how much you can get done on your own. That will either be fun to see or a mess to clean up, lol.
3. A play day. The only things allowed are reading, art, music and science (that one is a favorite of his, so yes, it would be part of play day).

I think if I can pull these off next week, I’ll be able to pull through until the holidays. We’ll see. Stay tuned….

Four Weeks Inside Our Four Walls ….

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At four weeks into homeschooling my son, I’m an expert. LOLOL. Even I couldn’t say that one with a straight face. Truly, even once I have more time under my belt and more experience, I don’t know if I’ll be able to consider myself an “expert”. There is just SO much information out there, it’s incredible. However, what I can share are the few things I’ve learned in this short time:

1. Relax This goes for both me (teacher) and my son. Initially, it’s so exciting to have a blank canvas to paint with curriculum, interests and experiments … all catered just for you. But with great freedom, comes great responsibility. I mean that to say, we can’t do everything. I had three languages on tap as well as typing, guitar and a few other extras. Not that we can’t still do all of those, and maybe even at the same time. But we’re just starting out. So not now. For now, relax.

2. We can actually use the flexibility we’re given. Okay, so the first day we were out at the library a little later than planned, I panicked. Not major, full-on, stressed panic, but a substantially scaled down version. However, the stress was still there. And many experienced homeschool moms may laugh, but I got home and realized, we can just push everything back a half an hour, and finish something tomorrow. And that will be okay. And then I got even more brazen and realized, it’s gorgeous outside and not as hot in the morning, so we can go to the park and then come home and do school. And that’s okay. Baby steps for me. Flexibility is definitely a good thing.

3. You really can learn doing housework. I joked about this previously, if not somewhat skeptically. But as we cleaned up on Friday preparing for houseguests, my son had a certain number of bins in his playroom where toys needed to fit. He needed to find out how many of each item could go in each bin. Math! We also got into a discussion about something we’d studied earlier in the week from Science, which bled into history and ended at Geography, with an online search. We were studying! And cleaning! And learning. Cool.

I’ve still got my subjects covered and am still continuing in my very methodical, organized way. I’m just learning where I can loosen the reigns, go with the flow, and enjoy the journey. Now check back with me in a few weeks and see if I’m still flowing. 😉