As I reflect upon 2014 and look towards my goals for the upcoming year, inevitably I want to be a better mother. What mom doesn’t? Too little patience, too much yelling, not enough hugging, too much rushing, not enough money … and the list could go on and on. But moms, we’re often way too hard on ourselves. And who better to show that to us, than our kids. Check out the reactions of these moms to what their kids really think about them ….
He’s 7. He loves her. And I’m glad.
My 7 year old son excitedly handed me his math work. “Read the test first” he said, excitedly. So, I turned to the test, to find it covered with “I love you” and “I love (insert girl’s name).” Hmmm.
Sure it was cute. But of course my heart skipped a beat. At this age? Really? Do I have to start dealing with this now? So I talked to him about it.
I must admit, it was adorable. He smiled. Gushed, actually. My heart melted. It’s not your usual crush … she’s much older. It’s adorable nonetheless.
Although my mommy heart is aching, I’m thrilled with this development for several reasons.
1) He not only told me. He WANTED me to know. And instead of getting all weird about it, I simply talked to him. I agreed that the object of his affection is pretty and sweet. I said she may be a little old for him to “court” right now.
2) We established open lines of communication. He saw that I understood his feelings, and wanted to talk more. I was also able to “sneak in” some more mature thoughts about relationships and how exciting it will be when he gets to start courting the woman he’ll marry. Subtle, but I put it in there. 😉
3) He sees I am approachable. And genuine. I didn’t say he is too young to be thinking about girls that way (he is don’t get me wrong lol). Seriously, I let him know I understand his feelings and by engaging him, let him know his feelings matter to me. My prayer is that I am setting the ground work for the future.
So continue to write your little hearts and scroll those precious notes. As long as mom can see them first.
A friend’s new website
A focused conversation
An informative webinar
Kind words from a stranger
An exciting offer
A story of triumph
Inspiration. Where do you get it?
Don’t tell me it’s never happened to you before. Okay, maybe it wasn’t the cell phone. But you were looking all over for the glasses on top of your head. Or you searched the house from top to bottom for your car keys (oh, the irony, as you will see). Or how about tearing the car apart for the coins for the toll that you “just had in your hand”?!
And then there’s plans. Double booking appointments. Forgetting meetings not written on the calendar. Or one of my new personal favorites, planning an entire child’s birthday party … at the wrong location. Because you’re too busy, things are too crazy and you are doing entirely too much.
Yep, you read it right. A real life situation. The names have been omitted to protect the overwhelmed (no worries, she encouraged me to use her story for my blog lol). A friend of mine called frantic, a few hours before her daughter’s birthday party. She’d done her due diligence – sent out invitations timely, coordinated decorations, planned fun and exciting games, and assured every detail was set. She just forgot one small thing … to double check the location. The invites she sent were to a rock climbing facility all right … just not the one where she paid for the party. So here we were, hours before the big event, calling, texting, even frantically Facebooking (is that a real word?) people to get them to the right address at the appointed time. We can laugh about it now. But last weekend, before it started, I assure you she was not laughing.
Nor was I, when at the end of the party, I couldn’t find my keys. In my rush to make calls, get there early to help set up, and be ever so helpful, I’d put my keys down somewhere. And when everyone left, they were no where to be found. I was stuck waiting for hubby and his spare set to come to the rescue. Too busy. Too crazy.
Stop. Relax. Cut yourself some slack. Breathe. Nine times out of ten, whatever you are stressing over, is not as unto death. It ain’t that serious. Take a moment. Refocus. So you won’t be stuck looking crazy like we were … trying to do too much. 😉
Have you ever been in your own way?
There is something burning in you …. something you want to do, be or achieve. Yet for various reasons … sometimes excuses you try to find … you’re not doing it?
I found myself there the past few days. And to be fair, my main reasons for not moving forward are valid, and even wise. However, it’s time to throw a little caution to the wind. And shake some things up.
After all, what’s stopping me?
I don’t quite know when it happened. I looked up. And I was 39. I blinked. Then I turned 40. I turned around. And there was 41. Yikes. Does it really happen this fast to everyone else? I mean I just woke up at 35, and here I am, 6 glorious years later.
So what does 41 look like?
Comfortable in my own skin
Revelation of how little others’ opinions matter
Realization that I’ll never be a balance beam champion (that ship long sailed lol)
Looming concerns about retirement
Caring for young children and loving older parents
I need a little more sleep and less reckless activity
So this is what middle age looks like?
Knowledge that I’m not considered a young kid anymore
Readers. I mean, readers?!
Loud music can be too loud.
Eating whatever you like is not a good idea – for your stomach or thighs
More laugh lines, but also more laughter
Easier to prioritize – family vs. whatever = family
The stuff they call music today is NOT music. In my day ….
Debt. HARDLY what it’s cracked up to be.
Loving the skin I’m in and the life I lead …..
Yup, it’s happened. I was told by teachers it was coming. The long months without a break start making you a little tired … and a little crazy. I don’t think I can hold out until Thanksgiving… it’s time for a break right now. I’ve decided to act accordingly in the following ways …
1. Self-imposed teachers workday. I’ll be working from my bed, pressing snooze, thank you very much.
2. A day of student responsibility. Show me how much you can get done on your own. That will either be fun to see or a mess to clean up, lol.
3. A play day. The only things allowed are reading, art, music and science (that one is a favorite of his, so yes, it would be part of play day).
I think if I can pull these off next week, I’ll be able to pull through until the holidays. We’ll see. Stay tuned….
My sister and I love to be silly and sing this song from The Color Purple to each other. I hadn’t seen my sister in months, and loved every minute of it this weekend. It’s got me thinking of all the wonderful (and crazy) things sisters learn from each other.
Things only sisters understand …
– Embarrassing childhood photos never go out of style
– You can want to choke each other one minute and overflow with love the next
– You can not speak for weeks and pick up a conversation right where you left off
– One word phrases from childhood brings laughter only the two of you understand
– Bringing up memories without words is the best!
– Sometimes a look or a smile says it all ….
Miss my sissy already
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Some the things you say actually do sink in, parents!
“Go downstairs” “Get out” “Go back to your office”. All choice phrases from my 3-year-old. First he was kicking me out of his bedroom. Then, out of the restroom – he wanted to do his business himself. And he attempted to banish me back to my office as I peered downstairs to see him jumping on the couch. After I corrected his language (Yeah, um, cute or not, you don’t speak to momma that way. 😉 ), I took note that he knew EXACTLY what he was doing. This kid knew enough to find a place to “hide”, do something he wasn’t supposed to do, then try to get me to stop looking while he was doing it! Lol. I don’t know if they come out of the womb like that or what, but little people definitely know what they’re up to!