I read something this weekend that really bothered me. I read that actress Kirsten Dunst was under fire for remarks she made to a magazine about women’s roles in the home. Now when I read the caption, I thought, what could she have said? Then I read the article, and was upset. But not for reasons you may think.
The article quoted her as saying, “I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued,” Dunst said. “We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at home, nurturing, being the mother, cooking – it’s a valuable thing my mum created. And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armour. I’m sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That’s why relationships work.”
Hmmm. Okay. So I read further. And this was the only quote listed from Dunst. But the remarks drew ire from some feminist groups. I’m guessing they didn’t like her “feminist” viewpoints.
And now the reason I am so upset. Why should remarks like Kirsten Dunst’s be offensive? In what I read, she didn’t say anything that women can’t be. She didn’t say that women MUST only work at home or in the kitchen. She said it is an undervalued role. I not only agree with her I will go a step further – it is a necessary, fulfilling, life-altering, amazing role. A role I gladly fulfill. I’ve had wonderful opportunities to work outside of the home, doing amazing projects, meeting people others have only dreamed of talking to in person. And I loved it. Still do. But nothing compares to my role as a wife and mother. Society is trying (and unfortunately succeeding) to make women think that if you don’t go out and get a career and fight to ascend to the top, that something is wrong with you. There’s nothing at all wrong with the career path. But being a mother in the home is just as noble a calling.
Women – hear me clearly – you truly can be anything you want to be. And that includes a nurturing mother.