Experts say it takes anywhere from 21 days to 66 days to form a new habit, depending upon what you read. Bottom line – it takes time to phase out with the old and in with the new. As you read this, we’ll be in the third month of the year and close enough to consider any new habits solidified. That’s exciting! Or is it? It all depends on what those new habits are. Perhaps you’ve made some progress towards achieving your goals, but things still don’t seem to be flowing as smoothly as you thought. Springtime is right around the corner. Maybe now is the time for a little “Spring cleaning.”
The beginning of the year is the traditional time for deciding what areas you want to work on in your life. Setting goals, of course, is productive. But so is a time of pruning. John 15:2 of the New Living Translation says, “He cuts off every branch of mine that doesn’t produce fruit, and he prunes the branches that do bear fruit so they will produce even more.” Simply put, after a couple of months of effort, it’s a great time to examine your progress, and any changes that need to be made. Here are just a few areas you can review to determine if you are doing all you can to move towards achieving your goal, or if a little tune-up might be in order.
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“We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year’s Day.” (Edith Lovejoy Pierce)
The beginning of a new year ushers in feelings of excitement, and, as just mentioned, opportunity. I personally feel like I can conquer the world as I plan out my goals and strategize for the upcoming year. I, like many of you, do it annually. I set aside time in December and make lists upon lists upon lists of what I’m going to make happen. The lists always have three characteristics in common: ambitious, lofty, and prior to this year, unrealistic. Yes, unrealistic. I pile tasks on as if I have nothing else to devote my time to, but each one. That is neither realistic, nor advisable. And inevitably, I end up disappointed. So I’ve decided this year to set goals that are definitely ambitious, perhaps even lofty, yet within the realm of attainable, especially with a plan.
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I recently received an interesting … and potentially very lucrative … offer. It appealed to me for a variety of reasons. First, it involved organizing and structuring an event, something at which I excel. It offered the chance to pay quite well. It would allow me the opportunity to be in charge, and orchestrate the flow of the event. And it involved lots of famous people. While I’m not the type to get star-struck, the last point made it sound fun and like a great opportunity to network. The person offering the job had the utmost confidence in my abilities to pull it off successfully. He knew I could do it; I knew I could do it; so why didn’t I do it?
Once I stepped away from the glitz and glamour of the offer, I looked at the reality of it. The time needed to make it a success would be practically 24/7, non-stop, due to the short time frame to accomplish the task. It would be a constant grind, and I’d have very little assistance. These two factors alone, however, didn’t deter me. I am definitely no stranger to hard work, and actually thrive under deadline pressure. But the final reason caused me to completely step away. This opportunity, beautifully packaged and wrapped with a bow, was a distraction.
As I study and pray more and more about my purpose, and fulfilling it with passion and determination, I realize I can’t take side journeys that may lead me down the wrong path. Now there’s nothing at all wrong with making additional money using your talents. There’s also nothing wrong with accepting a job that may not be exactly what you want to do – especially in a short-term capacity. However, this job seemed to have all the makings of getting me caught up for longer than I wanted to be, doing more than I wanted to do, at this time. So I had to pass.
Maybe the chance will come back around and I’ll be ready. Or maybe its sole purpose was to see if money would be my guide. But money isn’t everything. Pursuing my purpose, is.
My husband and I carefully prepared goals to help our sons achieve in 2015. We prayed about interests, researched classes, signed up for sports, and started saving for activities. We put a lot of time and effort into planning for their year. Charts have been created, schedules synched, and organizational structure implemented. The kids are ready. There’s only one small problem. We’re not. While planning for the little guys, we forgot to plan for the two of us.
Married parents, I think we often forget this. We’re so busy giving our kids every opportunity, affording them every advantage, sacrificing for their desires, that we forget to nurture our marriage. We had to remind ourselves that our marriage is vital, and just like our precious boys, needs attention, care and nurturing. So we’re putting a few things in place to ensure that we make time for our marriage … and each other.
1) Uninterrupted talk time each week. Okay, I know once a week doesn’t sound like much. But with two careers, two side jobs, opposite schedules, and two small boys, once a week sounds like a dream right now.
2) Monthly date night. Now I’ve read many fantastic articles and listened to dynamic speakers talk about dating your spouse once a week. I think it’s a fantastic idea. But we’ve tried. And failed. So I’d prefer to take baby steps and make an effort, than be discouraged because a goal of once a week doesn’t work, and give up. We’ll make those monthly times count.
3) Be sensitive to the other’s feelings. I must admit, I think we do a pretty good job of this now. We recognize when the other is burned out, overwhelmed and just needs a break. And we’re pretty unselfish in granting each other that time and space to relax and refuel. Even with our hectic schedules, I expect this to continue.
Take time to keep your marriage strong and happy. If things are going right with the two of you …. It makes the rest a lot easier to follow.
Have you ever been in your own way?
There is something burning in you …. something you want to do, be or achieve. Yet for various reasons … sometimes excuses you try to find … you’re not doing it?
I found myself there the past few days. And to be fair, my main reasons for not moving forward are valid, and even wise. However, it’s time to throw a little caution to the wind. And shake some things up.
After all, what’s stopping me?