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The Together Shirt …. Raising Up Parents

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My boys would not stop arguing this morning. I’d had enough. They are normally very sweet, considerate and get along well. But alas, it was one of those mornings. Out of patience, I decided to get creative with a solution. I stuck them together … literally … by wearing a huge Together Shirt.

They balked at first. Even cried, lol. Ah, I have a winner here. I grabbed one of my big shirts, squished the boys in, and voila, Together Shirt. I went back to work, pleased with myself.

A funny thing happened. They came up to me ten minutes later, asking if they could wear the shirt all day! It was fun, they said. They were reading, doing activities, and were pretending to be one big monster!  No fussing on my part, no yelling, no additional punishments – just teaching a valuable lesson to learn to work together.

How is this raising up parents? I read an article today about the rise in Kindergarten suspensions – Kindergarteners!!! For throwing chairs, bullying other kids, drugs, even lewd conduct. Sad. Disheartening. Also angering. And preventable.

Parents – where are you? What are you doing? Raising children is not a pastime or hobby. You don’t do it when you feel like it. You don’t get to decide when to pay attention and when to ignore. It involves time, effort, diligence, energy and patience! It also involves love, caring, sacrifice, and as you can see by my example, a little creativity. What is your “together shirt”? How do you reach your children? No answer? Then that is your answer. Get busy doing it. Now. Don’t know what to do? Get help from books, resources. Put in the time and effort.

In raising up your little ones,  you’ll find yourself growing, too.

Champion Kids Nuggets – Train them Up

 

Train up a Child February

The Bible talks about the importance of parents training kids up according to the Word of God. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go. And when he is old he will not depart from it.” I love the admonition of putting the Word of God into our children, so that it takes root in their hearts, and remains to guide their lives. However, I believe that this verse is talking about more than just teaching our kids scripture. I believe it is speaking of training them up in every facet of life.

We need to be training them up to be business-minded entrepreneurs. We ought to be training up our children to have a strong work ethic, not an entitlement “gimme what’s mine” attitude. We should be training up compassionate, giving children; children that care about the world around them and are willing to work to make a positive difference. We must train children who are goal-oriented and focused; children who understand the importance of education not merely for the sake of good grades and memorization, but for the sake of knowledge because knowledge is power.

Take the time to train up your children in the way they should go.

Who’s the Real Superhero?

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My husband posted something profound on Facebook today. It definitely bears repeating. Well said, honey.

I was getting ready to get my little man(4) ready for the day. He did not want to because he had on his superhero underwear and he knew it meant putting a clean one on. I started thinking you are not a super hero because of what you wear…which lead me to thinking about us n our relationship with god. we are not defined by what we do, have or wear. We are ‘super’ because we serve and belong to a ‘super-natural’ God. As such, it’s time we go out and be ‘super’. Rescue some one today, encourage someone today, amaze someone today, avert a crisis today, after all you are a ‘super-hero’ serving a ‘super-natural’ God! ‪#‎Da‬-Real-Super-Heroes

Say Cheese ….

Missing two front teeth

My son sang “All I want for Christmas is my two front teeth,” from October through Christmas. As anxious as he was to lose his teeth, he was equally anxious that new ones weren’t coming back in. It was taking too long, he lamented. Had he pulled them out too hard for anything to come back, he wondered. Was something wrong with the adult teeth, he asked. And on and on he persisted. He’d finally gotten what he wanted, and instead of being happy and satisfied, he immediately starting worrying about what should happen next.

My son’s only 8 years old, but already he’s exhibiting this unattractive adult trait. Aren’t we often like that? We pray for and work towards something, and then it finally happens. Instead of being happy, or grateful, or just resting in our victory, we start worrying. What’s next? What else do I have to do? How will the following steps take place? And so on and so forth.

Well, just as I saw this behavior in my son, I learned an important lesson from him. We discussed the situation, and he decided to just be thankful for what he was expecting – a new tooth to come in. He decided not to worry and wonder, and instead enjoy the present moment. And guess what … that new tooth started peeking through.

He’s now glad he took those moments to relish his two front teeth missing. And he’s excited to show off his burgeoning smile.

Say cheese ….

When Purpose Drives You

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I recently read a thought-provoking article titled, “Quality That Can’t Be Taught” by Christy Wright. It spoke volumes to me about the importance of hiring people who actually care for others; people who possess intrinsic compassion, integrity and decency towards others. A flight attendant selflessly gave her breakfast to a pregnant woman who boarded the flight, starving, and had been unable to eat. It was a simple yet profound act of kindness that made all the difference to the recipient.

As I read the article, however, another message screamed loudly at me: purpose. When you are doing what you were designed to do, what you were created to do, you fulfill your purpose. And you do it with joy, with intention. It’s not a drudgery. That’s not to say there’s no work involved – we all know that’s not true. However, your passion to go the extra mile shines through. I don’t know if that flight attendant believes that her job is what she was created to do. However, her belief that she should help and serve others, and do all she can to fulfill that mission, is evident by her actions.

Make it your goal to discover what your purpose is – what did God place you here to do? Then move toward fulfilling it – with everything in you. Your drive and passion will become a visible testimony to those who come in contact with you.

Let Your Purpose Drive You.

Here’s a look at the article that inspired me. Enjoy:
http://christywright.com/2014/09/the-quality-that-cant-be-taught/

Champion Kids Nuggets – He’s Growing Up

One of the arguments I hear against homeschooling is that the children won’t receive enough socialization. I bought into it. And even though I’ve researched and know the realities of social opportunities for homeschoolers, I was still very concerned. After all, we were leaving the confines of a world where my son was surrounded with friends and playmates, to just me, him, and baby brother, on some days. So I wasn’t sure how he’d adjust. I wondered if he’d become more withdrawn and an introvert.

We attended an event for a homeschool group we’re going to be a part of. Unlike my usual self, I felt very impressed to remain in the background, and not try to get him to talk to others or “forge” friendships for him. And I’m so glad I didn’t. He did it all by himself!

I was so proud. He immediately interacted with others with no problems, even suggesting games to play. He didn’t get bent out of shape when others didn’t want to do what he did. I saw so much of the fragility that I thought existed in him melt away. He tried all sorts of new things, including a zip line! That was a big wow for me. He didn’t have to stay with one group of kids to feel like he was having fun or taking part. My heart swelled with joy, as I saw him emerging from a shell I never realized existed the way it did … one I’d actually helped create. By allowing him to escape from my bubble, I’m enabling him to come into his own….

My baby … is growing up.

Champion Kids Nuggets – Head it off at the Pass

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The past year has been life-changing for me. I’ve learned not to stress so much. It’s been a process, complete with prayer, God’s Word, sleeping, TV, reading for fun, and figuring out “no” is not a bad word. I’ve been happier, healthier, and probably more pleasant to be around. I hadn’t given much thought to how all of my changes have been affecting my little guys.

That is, until I noticed my oldest son trying to pile on and do more and more and more – read more books, do more activities, fold more clothes, then become upset when his long list of items didn’t get done. Now some of you may think, big deal, be glad he wants to get things done. And I am. However, I also recognize the signs of starting to pile too much on yourself unnecessarily. Maybe I’m over-thinking it. But just in case, I’m going to put a few safeguards in place to help him handle stress positively, and head the negative part of it off at the pass.

1. Make a manageable list. For him, that should be two things he really wants to accomplish with his day. This will not be a mandatory daily list, but any means. But on the days I see he seems overwhelmed, I’ll pull him aside and offer this solution.

2. Make sure he is getting enough rest. Boy oh boy, are my little guys ever cranky when they don’t get enough sleep! As an adult, this can increase the stress factor tenfold. I’m going to ensure he knows how important this is right now.

3. Make him have fun. Yes, I said “make him” have fun. I’ll put on a song and we’ll dance around the living room. We’ll have an ice cream eating contest. We’ll play hide and seek in the house. In the process I’ll be teaching him that when tension mounts, a merry heart really does do good like a medicine.

We’re still early in the process, but that’s the entire point. I want to teach him tools to cope effectively now, so he can sail through later.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

In a world where many deem it okay for children to call adults by their first name, where “please” and “thank you” seem to have fallen by the wayside, and where kids can seem to run the household, it’s paramount to teach my boys respect. To respect me, of course. To respect proper authority, yes. And to respect themselves, absolutely.

When so many images, even in cartoons, can illustrate a blatant lack of respect in these areas, how do I instill it in my guys?

1. I respect them. Before I tell you what that means, let me explain what it does NOT mean. It doesn’t mean giving them whatever they want. It doesn’t mean doing what they say. And it doesn’t mean they control the household. It means I speak to them with dignity. It means I answer questions on their level instead of ignoring them. And it means I let them know they are loved and feel secure in that love.

2. I talk to them about respecting others. When someone, especially an adult, is speaking to you, look that person in the eye. Respond to them appropriately. Shake hands when the situation calls for it. As young men, hold the door for women. (The younger one hasn’t started learning this skill yet). 

3. I properly discipline them. The first two points will be of no affect if this point doesn’t come into play. Proper discipline will usher in respect for me, and thus what I say and teach carries a greater impact. Discipline is not to scare them or make them like mindless robots who must obey. It’s to teach them that there are rules that must be followed, and respect that must be rendered. It starts at home, and the rest grows out of that.

My sons are still works in progress, but modeling respect for them and training them in it, is a lifelong endeavor. Good thing I’m up for the challenge.