Fantastic blog written by Christy Wright. And well worth sharing.
“You’re spoiling that child! She’s going to grow up thinking the world revolves around her!”
From the time I was a small child, friends and family warned my mom that her parenting would ruin me. They said I would grow up selfish—that I would expect everything handed to me on a silver platter.
It’s true that I didn’t suffer many consequences when I misbehaved. They were right that my mom rarely told me “no” when I wanted a new toy or outfit.
That’s because my mom, like many single mothers, often operated out of a sense of guilt that my dad wasn’t in the picture. This led to more freedom and fewer consequences.
But all of those well-meaning family and friends didn’t consider this:
I watched my mother struggle.
– See more at: http://christywright.com/2015/03/dont-be-sorry-for-the-struggle/#sthash.DNl9aKW4.dpuf
I recently received an interesting … and potentially very lucrative … offer. It appealed to me for a variety of reasons. First, it involved organizing and structuring an event, something at which I excel. It offered the chance to pay quite well. It would allow me the opportunity to be in charge, and orchestrate the flow of the event. And it involved lots of famous people. While I’m not the type to get star-struck, the last point made it sound fun and like a great opportunity to network. The person offering the job had the utmost confidence in my abilities to pull it off successfully. He knew I could do it; I knew I could do it; so why didn’t I do it?
Once I stepped away from the glitz and glamour of the offer, I looked at the reality of it. The time needed to make it a success would be practically 24/7, non-stop, due to the short time frame to accomplish the task. It would be a constant grind, and I’d have very little assistance. These two factors alone, however, didn’t deter me. I am definitely no stranger to hard work, and actually thrive under deadline pressure. But the final reason caused me to completely step away. This opportunity, beautifully packaged and wrapped with a bow, was a distraction.
As I study and pray more and more about my purpose, and fulfilling it with passion and determination, I realize I can’t take side journeys that may lead me down the wrong path. Now there’s nothing at all wrong with making additional money using your talents. There’s also nothing wrong with accepting a job that may not be exactly what you want to do – especially in a short-term capacity. However, this job seemed to have all the makings of getting me caught up for longer than I wanted to be, doing more than I wanted to do, at this time. So I had to pass.
Maybe the chance will come back around and I’ll be ready. Or maybe its sole purpose was to see if money would be my guide. But money isn’t everything. Pursuing my purpose, is.
A friend’s new website
A focused conversation
An informative webinar
Kind words from a stranger
An exciting offer
A story of triumph
Inspiration. Where do you get it?
I planned and was purposeful,
My attempts to create
Opportunities and options
Joys I could equate
I rushed here, I rushed there
Dotted “t’s” and crossed “i’s”
Proposals and queries
But disappointments did arise
No offers. No interest.
And what came I turned down
Convinced it would not fit
As my busyness abounds
I’d given up, was losing hope
I was tired of trying
I felt like my dream was slipping away
And inside, I was dying
So I surrendered. It’s all I could do
I said God, You have to show me how
You created me to want this
The problem is, I want it now.
This is my energy, my passion
But I can’t make it work
My heart, my desire
Now a burden, in my heart lurks
When I gave up, then the phone rang
Opportunity knocked – and so loud
Interest .. incredible interest
Of my work, I felt so proud
It’s a life lesson I keep learning
Why can’t I remember it so easily?
When I say Your Will, Lord, not mine
That’s when You’ve always blessed me.
Moving forward … onward and upward
Have you ever been in your own way?
There is something burning in you …. something you want to do, be or achieve. Yet for various reasons … sometimes excuses you try to find … you’re not doing it?
I found myself there the past few days. And to be fair, my main reasons for not moving forward are valid, and even wise. However, it’s time to throw a little caution to the wind. And shake some things up.
After all, what’s stopping me?
I don’t quite know when it happened. I looked up. And I was 39. I blinked. Then I turned 40. I turned around. And there was 41. Yikes. Does it really happen this fast to everyone else? I mean I just woke up at 35, and here I am, 6 glorious years later.
So what does 41 look like?
Comfortable in my own skin
Revelation of how little others’ opinions matter
Realization that I’ll never be a balance beam champion (that ship long sailed lol)
Looming concerns about retirement
Caring for young children and loving older parents
I need a little more sleep and less reckless activity
So this is what middle age looks like?
Knowledge that I’m not considered a young kid anymore
Readers. I mean, readers?!
Loud music can be too loud.
Eating whatever you like is not a good idea – for your stomach or thighs
More laugh lines, but also more laughter
Easier to prioritize – family vs. whatever = family
The stuff they call music today is NOT music. In my day ….
Debt. HARDLY what it’s cracked up to be.
Loving the skin I’m in and the life I lead …..
I do it. You do it. For some reason, people do it all the time. There’s no rhyme or reason. Actually, it doesn’t make sense at all. Yet we lean on it as a crutch, as a defense mechanism of sorts. We deny. Deny, Deny, Deny.
Do you want to get married? No, I don’t want to be anchored down, he says, knowing full well he’d love the wife, kids, white picket fence and dog in the yard. Do you want another child? I’ve got my hands full/I’m busy as it is/Are you kidding me? When in reality, despite all the work involved, nothing would give me more joy than another little person. And the denial doesn’t just apply to personal life. Career, goals, hopes, dreams. For some reason, discounting the desires of our hearts can be par for the course.
I think we’re often afraid of what other people may say about the desire. Or what they’ll think of us if we don’t quite achieve the goal. Or … even worse … if we were “believing God” to bring it to pass, does He look bad when it doesn’t?
Well, no more. If I want it, I’m saying it and going for it. Don’t get me wrong, you should still employ wisdom in making decisions about what you share and whom you share it with. But I don’t see any point in denying who I am, or what I want.
I recently read a thought-provoking article titled, “Quality That Can’t Be Taught” by Christy Wright. It spoke volumes to me about the importance of hiring people who actually care for others; people who possess intrinsic compassion, integrity and decency towards others. A flight attendant selflessly gave her breakfast to a pregnant woman who boarded the flight, starving, and had been unable to eat. It was a simple yet profound act of kindness that made all the difference to the recipient.
As I read the article, however, another message screamed loudly at me: purpose. When you are doing what you were designed to do, what you were created to do, you fulfill your purpose. And you do it with joy, with intention. It’s not a drudgery. That’s not to say there’s no work involved – we all know that’s not true. However, your passion to go the extra mile shines through. I don’t know if that flight attendant believes that her job is what she was created to do. However, her belief that she should help and serve others, and do all she can to fulfill that mission, is evident by her actions.
Make it your goal to discover what your purpose is – what did God place you here to do? Then move toward fulfilling it – with everything in you. Your drive and passion will become a visible testimony to those who come in contact with you.
Let Your Purpose Drive You.
Here’s a look at the article that inspired me. Enjoy:
This weekend I experienced euphoria that I haven’t known in a while. I was able to write. Yes, I write and blog every week. But this was my passion … writing a script. And actually, it was a rewrite – harder work, but more exciting because it can mean there’s enough interest to warrant a rewrite. Woohoo! I desperately needed this nudge, this incentive, to stay focused on my passion.
Afterall, since July my focus has basically been schooling my sons. And I’m loving it. We’re having a blast. But in the midst of the trade-off of time devoted to homeschool and all it entails (and it’s a lot! Lol), I forgot one very basic component that needs attention. Me.
So here’s to the happy trade-off … I’ll gladly cast aside laser-focus on my career, certain things I love, even parts of who I am, in the name of sacrificing for my children. The only thing I ask is that I don’t lose sight of me, who I am and what I love to do.
He didn’t invent the chicken … just the chicken sandwich. I am so saddened to hear of the passing of Truett Cathy. Our family loves Chick Fil A and Truett’s Pizza Cafe. The food is delicious; however, it’s much more than the food that keeps us going back. It’s the true legacy left by Mr. Cathy.
As a reflect on the reasons why his establishments prospered, they extend far beyond good quality food and a great deal. As indicated by the photo above, Mr. Cathy’s priorities were in order. And because he knew the intrinsic value of focusing on the things that truly matter, he was able to make a difference in our lives and the lives of others. Here are a few of the things I take from his life … and his legacy.
1. Putting God first. His restaurants are not open on Sundays, yet they are highly profitable. Mr. Cathy chose to put his convictions and desire to honor God before money. We can all learn a lesson from this. God and family are more important than profits.
2. Service. Whenever we visit one of his restaurants, we are greeted warmly. Every service requested brings forth a response of “my pleasure.” There is not enough space to speak about the help rendered to my family and I above and beyond the call of duty. I could mention the time that my son held a fundraiser to benefit foster children, and Truett’s Pizza Cafe opened their doors and hearts to help. Or I could talk about requesting assistance from Chick Fil A for another event and being given an enormous amount of gifts and meal cards to pass out to others. A lot of commercial “service” now is focused on the bottom line, making a dollar and getting the product in as many hands as possible. His bottom line was serving people.
3. Quality. As a mom I am very careful about what I let my children eat. We don’t eat out a lot. However, when we do, it is at a Truett Cathy establishment. The quality of the food, and the taste, speak for themselves. It is possible to provide a quality product that benefits others … and you still profit.
My prayers are with the Cathy family members as well as his extended restaurant family. Thank you, Mr. Cathy, for your vision and for showing Chick Fil A was about more than just a wing and a prayer.