Category Archives: Marriage

Marriage: It’s Beautiful, It’s Natural, It’s Incredible

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I just felt like sharing this again.  Enjoy  ….

Married love is a funny thing. Built on a foundation of respect, honesty, commitment, and genuine friendship, it has to be nurtured, protected, developed, and honored. It’s almost like a child in a way – you give birth to it when you walk down the aisle. Then in the first few years of teaching it to “walk” or “work,” there are bumps and bruises as you get a feel for it. Finally, the cruising begins and you’re on your way…to more lessons, bumps and bruises, failures, and triumphs. Yet through it all, you have each other.

And while many in today’s society view marriage as antiquated, unnecessary, or even unrealistic (despite scores of happily married couples who beg to differ), those of us who are married know how joyful, fulfilling, and secure it can be. That’s why it’s so important to work to keep your marriage happy and healthy. I want to do something a little different today. Instead of telling you ways to keep your marriage spark alive, I want to help you understand the reason it is so crucial – and what can happen if you choose to let the flame extinguish.

You can miss an opportunity to experience a beautiful, God-created institution.

Hebrews 13:4 says, “Let marriage be held in honor among all . . . “ (ESV). Marriage is the institution designed for us to be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth. However we are also meant to enjoy it! It’s good and wonderful in our sight!

You can lose valuable opportunities for personal growth and development.

How many times in my 13 years of marriage have I wanted my own way, to do exactly as I felt like, spend money as I desired, or simply do nothing at all? PLENTY. But when you’re married, it’s not just about you. You don’t get to be selfish, petty, or have a pity party. Being lazy, bossy, or manipulative doesn’t work too well either. Instead, you learn how to share, give of yourself, sacrifice for someone else’s greater good, and generally become a better person. Positive growth is a benefit of marriage.

You can miss the sheer joy of companionship and comfort.

Teddy Pendergrass sang, “it’s so good loving somebody and somebody loves you back.” And that’s a fact. It’s a wonderful feeling to be loved and cherished in a strong, healthy marriage. It’s great to enjoy activities and times of fun with your best friend. It’s an amazing thing to make memories that last a lifetime. You are afforded that privilege in marriage.

To say I’m a big proponent of Godly marriage between a man and a woman is an understatement. I believe that when done right, there’s no place else you’d rather be. And that’s a fact.

Things I’m Thankful For . . .

Thankful November 30

The older (and wiser) I get, the more my perspective changes.  I get what really matters.  It’s funny, when I was younger I was all about climbing that career ladder, getting my big break, being on my hustle and my grind, and making it happen – whatever it was.  I still have goals and aspirations.  Now, however, they take a back seat to things a thriving career, and a networking connection can’t get for you.  In honor of the Thanksgiving holiday I was so blessed to celebrate with friends and family dear to me, here’s a look at some things I’m thankful for.

  • A husband who cooks, cleans, is humble, and selfless. He’s an amazing daddy and an incredible marriage partner.
  • Two beautiful boys who are my heartbeat. Their smiles, their unconditional love, and their innocent acceptance make me want to continue to do all that I can for them.  My heart melts when they laugh.
  • Parents who are living, love me and are an integral part of my life.
  • Siblings who are now dear friends.
  • Inlaws who I genuinely love and appreciate.
  • The privilege to homeschool my boys. Yes, I am sacrificing much, but boy, is it worth the sacrifice.
  • A place to lay my head, clothes to put on each day and food to eat. Truly things we usually take for granted.  Truly things to be grateful for.
  • My health. So very precious to be healthy.
  • Joy! The joy of the Lord is truly my strength.
  • Peace of mind. I could write for days on this one ……
  • And last, but certainly not least, the love of Jesus that permeates my being and makes me who I am today.

 

I am grateful.

Breathe Again

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I was busy. Who isn’t, you’re probably saying? But I was the type of busy that it truly took too much time and energy to consider taking a rest. Between working a job, freelance work, homeschooling my kids, volunteer work, and being a wife and mother, I was stretched way too thin. And signs of wear were starting to show. I felt in a constant state of stress. I was barely sleeping at night, and snapping at my family during the day. There just weren’t enough hours to get everything done. I was sinking. Fast.

– See more at:  Gospel Today – Breathe Again

What I’ve Realized in 14 Years of Marriage….

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I’ve realized in 14 years of marriage ….

– That “happy” doesn’t always mean “convenient.

– That you have to share even when you don’t feel like it.

– That considering someone else limits your choices.

– That there’s always someone to answer to.

 

But more importantly, I’ve realized …

– Being inconvenienced to make you happy, makes me happy.

– That the best part of sharing is having someone to share with.

– That choices to strengthen us and our family far outweigh any other choices I’d want to make.

– That I’m thankful that there is always someone to answer to.

 

Thank God for you, hubby.

 

Freeze A Feeling

Freeze a Feeling

I wish I could freeze the feeling of …

A 4 year old hugging me around the neck
How I feel when my son says “yes ma’am” and shows respect.
My joy at hearing my children laugh,
The relaxation of a soothing warm bath.
A tender touch, my husband’s kiss
A first day of school I dare not miss.
Just a few family moments on my mind tonight … feelings I wish I could freeze and feel forever.