Not One of Us ….

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I worked in news for several years.  I, like so many of you, am hurt, frustrated, sad, angry and bewildered by the cruel actions of one person.  My thoughts and prayers are with the family and friends of these individuals.  Jaye Watson eloquently puts so many feelings into words.  What she says is so fitting, when it’s so hard to make sense of the situation.  Here are her words …..

 

I imagine I am Alison Parker, doing a live shot, yet another live shot, one of a dozen that will fill the work week.

I imagine how the sun rises behind her in the moments before it happens, how her photographer Adam has to adjust his camera to accommodate the encroaching fingers of light.

Maybe she learned her assignment that morning, when she walked into her newsroom at 3:30 AM and a producer told her she would be interviewing a woman about business redevelopment.

Read more here: Jaye Watson “Roanoke”

What I’ve Realized in 14 Years of Marriage….

Anniversary

 

I’ve realized in 14 years of marriage ….

– That “happy” doesn’t always mean “convenient.

– That you have to share even when you don’t feel like it.

– That considering someone else limits your choices.

– That there’s always someone to answer to.

 

But more importantly, I’ve realized …

– Being inconvenienced to make you happy, makes me happy.

– That the best part of sharing is having someone to share with.

– That choices to strengthen us and our family far outweigh any other choices I’d want to make.

– That I’m thankful that there is always someone to answer to.

 

Thank God for you, hubby.

 

Freeze A Feeling

Freeze a Feeling

I wish I could freeze the feeling of …

A 4 year old hugging me around the neck
How I feel when my son says “yes ma’am” and shows respect.
My joy at hearing my children laugh,
The relaxation of a soothing warm bath.
A tender touch, my husband’s kiss
A first day of school I dare not miss.
Just a few family moments on my mind tonight … feelings I wish I could freeze and feel forever.

Busy. Happy. Healthy.

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I promised myself. This time would be different. Workout gear. Check. Water bottle. Check. Walking shoes. Check. I’m ready to get at it. And I begin, daily. For a few weeks, even months, things go great. But then something happens. It could be the kids, work, hubby, I get sick, you name it – there’s always something. And I let it throw me off course. It could be a week. It could be a month. It’s a vicious cycle that seems to require too much time and effort to correct. I’ve got too much going on to deal with it. However, instead of repeating the cycle, this time I’ve chosen to make decisions enabling me to be healthy the smart way. The right way.

– See more at: Gospel Today – Busy. Happy. Healthy

How to Homeschool … for Cheap

 

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As I prepare for another challenging and exciting homeschool year, I am seeing facebook group pages fill up with people who are unsure, tentative and a bit overwhelmed by starting homeschool.  They don’t know where to start.  Or some have done enough research to pave a small path, but the amount of curriculum possibilities, and associated dollar signs, makes their heads spin.

I’m all about making sure my children have the best education I can give them.  But best doesn’t always have to mean most expensive.  Here are a few tips:

1) Take advantage of curriculum or curriculum aids in your public library.  That’s right, I’ve found excellent supplemental items in the library.  Granted, you can’t hang on to it for the entire school year, but depending on the item you may be able to structure your studies to get full use out of it during your time.  And you can always continue to renew!  You can also pick up books that give you great homeschool info, like 102 Top Picks For Homeschool Curriculum.

2) Attend used curriculum sales.  Co-ops, conferences and now many Facebook pages offer used curriculum at great discounts.  So what a few pages are marked up or have highlighting?  You can get the meat of what you need from it, and avoid new book costs and shipping fees.

3) Go on virtual field trips.  All sorts of trips are available for art, history and science.  It’s a great way to learn and can ease the cost of attending so many events.  However, you’ve got to get out of the house once in a while! :)  In which case, you want to ….

4) Research Homeschool Days.  From the aquariums to museums, ballparks to theme parks, it seems like everyone is offering days specifically geared to homeschoolers.  The rates tend to be a little lower, and you meet other like-minded people.  It can be a nice bonding experience.

5) Pool resources.  If you have more than one child who is homeschooling, consider allowing them to share a textbook.  Just buy separate workbooks.

6) Lastly, check out online curriculum.  There are tons!  And it’s not just having the child sit in front of the computer all day.  Some curriculum give you work to print, or activities to do.

Homeschooling doesn’t have to be expensive.  Be open, be creative and enjoy the possibilities!

Let The Boys Be Boys!

Check out this great article by Celeste Brinson.  As a mom of two boys, I can absolutely relate:

Boys will be boys.

As simple as that might sound, it is the utter truth. Boys and girls are not the same: not physically, not psychologically, not even spiritually. The spirit of a little boy is a burning desire to touch, build, fix, destruct, fight, and love. My son is a co-sleeping snuggle bug who loves fiercely. He often gifts me with pine cones and other treasures, and he wipes my tears when I cry. He’s a gentleman.

And, he’s a rough and tumble little boy. He likes to play with sticks and rocks and throw things and splash water and push and be pushed and chase and tag and flip and flop. He’s loud. Sometimes his dinosaur roar even scares the little ones. And I know how people feel about his behavior because I see the way they look at him and me: as though we are wild criminals who have fled from an asylum just to come bother their perfectly-behaved child. Like it or not, those perfectly-behaved children are most often little girls. Comparing a girl to a boy is like comparing an orange to a shoe. Just don’t. Save your time; there is absolutely no point.

Continue reading at: A Plea of Boyhood and Rough Play

It’s All About The Team

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#TeamFleming

I’ve seen things this week that break my heart.  Kids … with no respect or regard for their own lives, let alone anyone else’s.  Reckless, lawless, gutless behavior.  They seem to feel bold and courageous, when in reality they are cowardly and their actions ignorant.  I believe in a lot of cases these kids want to be a part of something … anything.   And when parenting doesn’t provide the needed input, when an adult doesn’t model a positive example, when they don’t feel a part of something worthwhile …. they fall apart.

We have to realize the importance of all people, and especially young people, with being a part of a team.  A team does so many things for you.  It . . .

  • Gives you a sense of belonging
  • Provides a sense of importance
  • Lets you know you are cared for and loved
  • Helps establish a stronger sense of self-esteem
When you have nothing to identify with …
  • You are more susceptible to fall into negative identification (gangs, violent groups, cults)
  • You don’t care about yourself, because you think no one else does
  • You don’t feel loved or supported
Parents, caregivers, teachers, aunts, uncles, grandparents – this is where our youth are lacking today.  This is why they are hurting.  They don’t feel a part of any positive team.  So they turn to negativity where they can “belong” and be a part of something, even if it is harmful.  Please turn off the TV, put away your cell phone, schedule one less meeting, decline a lunch date.  Instead, eat dinner at home, see them off in the morning, hug and kiss your young one, tell them how much they mean to you, do an activity that THEY want to do – not one convenient to your schedule.  And PAY ATTENTION to them.  Every time you think of buying them a gift because you missed an event or couldn’t be there, get them the greatest gift you can give instead – YOUR TIME.
Everyone wants to be a part of a team.  The team your kid identifies with is up to you.
#TeamFleming

Champion Kids Nuggets – Train Them Up

Group of Friends Smiling

The Bible talks about the importance of parents training kids up according to the Word of God. Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train up a child in the way he should go. And when he is old he will not depart from it.” I love the admonition of putting the Word of God into our children, so that it takes root in their hearts, and remains to guide their lives. However, I believe that this verse is talking about more than just teaching our kids scripture. I believe it is speaking of training them up in every facet of life.

We need to be training them up to be business-minded entrepreneurs. We ought to be training up our children to have a strong work ethic, not an entitlement “gimme what’s mine” attitude. We should be training up compassionate, giving children; children that care about the world around them and are willing to work to make a positive difference. We must train children who are goal-oriented and focused; children who understand the importance of education not merely for the sake of good grades and memorization, but for the sake of knowledge because knowledge is power.

Take the time to train up your children in the way they should go.

 

A Little Discipline Goes A Long Way

Discipline

 

It was a place I’d been in before.  I had to buy items from one store, then finish grocery shopping at another.  Sound familiar?  The stores are close in distance, so that wasn’t a problem.  But the potential issue lied in me getting caught in a familiar trap – spending too much at the first store and having to use credit to cover the rest at the second location.  This time, however, I determined it would be different.  And learned valuable lessons in the process.

I spent what I had to spend – no more.  If I didn’t have the money, it stayed in the store.  Temptation knocked at that great sale, or how much I would be “saving”.  But I resisted.  I stayed focused.  And I learned a lot from that small decision.

1) Discipline is catching.  It permeates all areas of your life.  Decide to be more disciplined in your eating, in your exercise?  Watch your thinking change for the better in your spending.

2) It feels good to delay gratification.  It feels good because I knew the end result will be worth it.

3) Celebrate victories no matter how small.  Yeah, me!