I Googled myself. Have you ever done that? I write a number of articles, have a few IMDB credits to my name, and just wanted to see what popped up. It was interesting. I found a few places where my writing has been posted that I wasn’t aware of. I found intriguing comments that I’d missed on some of my writings. And I was able to take a nostalgic stroll down memory lane.
As I read through an online summary of my professional and public life, I realized how much was missing. While it highlighted some achievements, it didn’t express how important my family is to me. It didn’t talk about the importance of my faith in God and love for Jesus. It failed to communicate my desire to put people above things. It didn’t capture the essence of me … and what I want others to remember me for.
And it helped put some things in perspective. It feels great to be recognized for good work, or professional achievements. I smiled at the number of articles that came up with my name attached. I felt accomplished. However, none of that matters if my heart for God, devotion to family and love for people isn’t seen. When I strip it all away, that’s what really matters. And that’s what I want to be remembered for.
How will people remember you?
I was busy. Who isn’t, you’re probably saying? But I was the type of busy that it truly took too much time and energy to consider taking a rest. Between working a job, freelance work, homeschooling my kids, volunteer work, and being a wife and mother, I was stretched way too thin. And signs of wear were starting to show. I felt in a constant state of stress. I was barely sleeping at night, and snapping at my family during the day. There just weren’t enough hours to get everything done. I was sinking. Fast.
– See more at: Gospel Today – Breathe Again
My son is not the biggest kid on the team.
He’s not the strongest. He’s not the best hitter.
My son isn’t the fastest. He doesn’t strike them out from the pitcher’s mound yet.
But … my son is resilient. My son has a strong work ethic.
My son is a fast learner. My son is attentive. My son is supportive.
My son is persevering. My son has a great team attitude.
Tonight, my son stole the most bases.
Tonight, my son scored a home run.
Tonight, my son won the game ball.
Let’s hear it for my boy!
A precious, dear friend of mine recently passed away. After awaiting details of a service for Sharan, I learned we were convening at a banquet hall. Hmm, interesting, I thought. Not sure what I was in store for, I went. Instead of a funeral, or even a homegoing, I encountered a party! The atmosphere was filled with love, reminiscing, food (yes, we had dinner), laughter, music and fun. It was amazing. I had a blast. Yes, I missed my friend, but the thoughts of sadness were far exceeded by beautiful memories and the good time we had. Her life, and subsequently her death and the way we remembered her, have really caused me to reflect.
1) I will live my life being true to me! I am a unique expression and creation of God. Life is too precious for me to be concerned about others’ opinions, thoughts and ideas about what I should be doing. Sharan surely lived that way. God bless her, she didn’t give a flip what you thought. And I loved that about her.
2) Live an impactful life. Sharan lived life to the fullest, and judging by last night’s turnout, she touched and impacted hundreds, if not more. Her love, compassion, thoughtfulness and integrity managed to make a mark on many lives that can never be erased. I want to live that way.
3) When it’s all said and done, celebrate the fact that I lived. I want people to be better for having known me. I want people to have joy and laughter as they remember me. And I want them to feel like my life exemplified Jesus. Now go party!
Farewell, dear Sister. You lived life to the fullest. Thank you for letting me be a part. And thank you for continuing to teach me, even in death. Until we meet again ….
Thank you, honey, for all you do.
Have you ever been in your own way?
There is something burning in you …. something you want to do, be or achieve. Yet for various reasons … sometimes excuses you try to find … you’re not doing it?
I found myself there the past few days. And to be fair, my main reasons for not moving forward are valid, and even wise. However, it’s time to throw a little caution to the wind. And shake some things up.
After all, what’s stopping me?
I am truly blessed to have a lot of talents, abilities and gifts. I know a lot of us are. Sometimes, it can be hard to choose which gift you will focus on, and where you will direct your energy. I used to struggle incredibly in this arena. I felt guilty for not agreeing to things, not taking on tasks, not doing what someone else wanted me to do. Then … inspiration. It’s not about what anyone else wants me to do. It’s not even about what I want to do. It’s about what God desires for me to do.
God wants me to be a whole person. Yes, absolutely, He wants me to selflessly serve my gifts to His glory and to benefit His people and His purpose. But I am also one of those people. So that means to be whole, I need to be sure I am served. So I serve myself with … rest … times of refreshing …. and by guarding my time. It sounds easier than it is, but with focus and determination, it can be done.
First, pray. Filter EVERYTHING through what God has called you to do right now. Pray and ask Him is this in line with my purpose and focus at this time? If you’re in a season of purging and simplifying, do you really think you’re meant to take on additional projects? Or if you know it’s your time to really focus and pour into your family because you’ve been a bit neglectful, should you be running off to further your career or volunteer for another project?
Next, don’t be moved by people. Don’t be moved by people. Do not be moved by people. Others will gladly tell you what you should be doing with your time, or how they think your time should be spent. There’s just one problem with that. They are not you. They don’t hear from God for you. Don’t let their disappointment or their desires overshadow what God is speaking to you to do.
Lastly, don’t be afraid to shift. An opportunity may come along that is perfect and what you should do. Or perhaps you have one plan and focus in mind and this latest offering takes you in a different direction. Go back to what I said first – pray. If this shifting is in line with what you should do now, go for it. If you told me before kids that I would end up homeschooling or loving being a stay-at-home mom/freelancer/visionary, I would have laughed in your face. But right now this is my calling. It’s exactly where I should be.
I worked in news for several years. I, like so many of you, am hurt, frustrated, sad, angry and bewildered by the cruel actions of one person. My thoughts and prayers are with the family and friends of these individuals. Jaye Watson eloquently puts so many feelings into words. What she says is so fitting, when it’s so hard to make sense of the situation. Here are her words …..
I imagine I am Alison Parker, doing a live shot, yet another live shot, one of a dozen that will fill the work week.
I imagine how the sun rises behind her in the moments before it happens, how her photographer Adam has to adjust his camera to accommodate the encroaching fingers of light.
Maybe she learned her assignment that morning, when she walked into her newsroom at 3:30 AM and a producer told her she would be interviewing a woman about business redevelopment.
Read more here: Jaye Watson “Roanoke”
I’ve realized in 14 years of marriage ….
– That “happy” doesn’t always mean “convenient.
– That you have to share even when you don’t feel like it.
– That considering someone else limits your choices.
– That there’s always someone to answer to.
But more importantly, I’ve realized …
– Being inconvenienced to make you happy, makes me happy.
– That the best part of sharing is having someone to share with.
– That choices to strengthen us and our family far outweigh any other choices I’d want to make.
– That I’m thankful that there is always someone to answer to.
Thank God for you, hubby.
I wish I could freeze the feeling of …
A 4 year old hugging me around the neck
How I feel when my son says “yes ma’am” and shows respect.
My joy at hearing my children laugh,
The relaxation of a soothing warm bath.
A tender touch, my husband’s kiss
A first day of school I dare not miss.
Just a few family moments on my mind tonight … feelings I wish I could freeze and feel forever.